One of my EOS colleagues, Paul Detlefs, recently shared one of Patrick Lencioni’s recent articles containing a gem from Getting Naked. The title of this article is The Power of Entering the Danger. Read the whole article here.
The gist of the article is that all groups of leaders in businesses, if they are not very careful, develop an inability, or an unwillingness to speak truthfully to each other. For example when an owner snaps during a meeting and lectures one of her direct reports, you can often see heads being lowered, eyes averted and no one else talking. Lencioni describes a real life example of this in this article.
What should I do?
The challenge for all of us, in a business setting or in our personal lives, is to not let the moment pass. At a minimum, if you feel uncomfortable, know that others do as well and it will help clear the air if you simply say something like, “Hey, that made me feel really uncomfortable, how about the rest of you?” or “Mary, why did you choose to yell at Harry in front of us like that? He feels terrible and I am embarrassed for him?” If you speak up, it is likely others will. If you speak up, something will change. If you don’t you will likely be made to feel that way again. If nothing changes, nothing changes.
I am not suggesting this is easy. I am guilty of not always doing it when I should. How about you?